Comments on Dizgraceland: Punching yourself

Karen,I do believe we create our own reality, so w...

2009-02-26T07:33:00.000-08:00

Karen,
I do believe we create our own reality, so whatever you want to see in the mirror is reality! And I do hope you are feeling better. Glad to see on the Web.

NB,
I do believe that many people insult themselves as a way to get people to correct them and reassure them that their fears are not real (as in, "Do these jeans make my butt look big).

I think my mother just grew up in an environment where she truly was taught that she wasn't good enough. And we pass attitudes on to our children whether we want to or not (a lesson I am learning on a daily basis).

I think I feel less compelled to entertain in a private blog than a public one. Thus, I am not as entertaining. Ouch, I just punched myself, didn't I :)

My mother has always asked if she is pretty. She'...

2009-02-26T05:56:00.000-08:00

My mother has always asked if she is pretty. She's obsessed with her appearance. "Does she look older than me? Am I prettier than her?" It always annoyed me. She is in her sixties and is still doing it. Of course she is fishing for a compliment. In the last ten years, I have refused to bite. It's easier to correct a misperception when someone is self deprecating. You feel like you're doing them a favor. "Oh you're not ugly (fat, stupid, boring, etc.)". It is so much harder to reinforce someone's high esteem of themselves.

Not exactly ON topic... but it's what came to mind when I read your post.

I think it's interesting that you seem to type things more introspective and personal now that your blog is private. I like this new view of you.

I do believe I may be guilty of this very thing my...

2009-02-26T04:54:00.000-08:00

I do believe I may be guilty of this very thing myself. I just thought I had a strange sense of humour but maybe it goes deeper than I thought. Oh God...I don't want to look in the mirror and see reality. I've grown fond of the dream world I live in...it's made to order just the way I like it :)