Wednesday, May 02, 2007

I scream


I got a brochure today for a training seminar about the seven secrets of effective managers. It was the typical motivational speaker jibba jabba. They listed the seven things in the brochure, so I'm not sure why you would then need to go to the seminar.

The only one of the secrets I remember from the brochure was "Understand first, then try to understand." Okay, I kind of like that jibba jabba. I have been guilty of not trying to understand someone's point of view before trying to get them to understand mine. I suppose if you really want to communicate with someone you should try to at least listen to what they are trying to say first before you try to shove your opinion down their throat.

But then again I suppose if you do bother to listen to what someone is saying and still think they are full of shit, it is okay to force feed them your own opinion. Because then it is their turn to try and "understand first."

I don't think many people really listen though. Everyone is screaming to be heard, but no one is shutting up to listen. And when you realize no one is listening, you scream a little louder. But maybe, just maybe the way to be heard is to be quiet.

And god knows there are lots of people in the world I wish would just shut up, because I'm trying to be heard here.

20 comments:

Angel Without Wings said...

I completely understand where you are coming from. Now understand this.....that bloody photo is going to give me nightmares tonight.....Good luck with the seminar, sounds rivetting.

Angel Without Wings said...

btw, I love that expression "jibba jabba", its so cute it almost sounds complimentary which of course it isn't.

Steve said...

So...........Ya really are Vanilla?

Shandi said...

I scream, you scream, we all definately scream, but it ain't for icecream. It's for the freedom to order any icecream off the menu without having vanilla shoved down your throat.

Blazngfyre said...

I'm sorry .... were you saying something?

The "EYE SCREAM" distracted me.
It's terrifying, but I can't seem to tear my eyes away from it ....

Oh yeah.
People talk too much.
Never listen.
Yadda yadda yadda ..... right?

Tim ID said...

Angel w/o wings, But it is a happy scream! Oh and I'm not taking the seminar. I just got a brochure for it. I used up my training money for the year going to Las Vegas. I'll just have to rely on my own jibba jabba until next year. :)

Steve, See, this has nothing to do with vanilla or any controversy related to it. Besides, does that ice cream look like vanilla to you?

Shandi,
I kind of look at as just freedom to scream in general :)

Blaznfyre,
I'm sorry, what were you saying? :)

Steve said...

Ah Don't you oppress me......It's a free country and if I think it's vanilla it's vanilla.......
YOU GOT something against VANILLA?

Oh MY GOD!
What were you thinking?

Shandi said...

That icecream is obviously bubble gum and pistacchio flavored. Anyone who disagrees with that will have to deal with me. I will personally rally the troups and take em out.

Oh I'm sorry, I wasn't listening. What were you saying?

Personally Tim, I love the fact that you allow us to post our comments without fear of attack. I have the freedom to be just as wrong as I like.

R. said...

This morning I lay in bed and listened to the wonderful cacophony as hundreds of birds gave voice to their thoughts outside my open windows.

I thought about how they were all trying to be heard; some by being loud; some by having unusual songs.

According to David Attenborough some of the birds are trying get the attention of potential mates. Others are yelling "I am here!" Still others are establishing territory.

It's the birds that are silent that concern me the most. What are they doing? Have they given up trying to find a mate? Are they sneaking up for the attack?

Tim ID said...

Steve, Australia may be a free country, but this here is America. Well, actually it is Dizgraceland. I make the laws here. And apparently Shandi enforces them. That would make her the sheriff.

Wait a minute this sounding all too familar. :(

Shandi, I have always defended your right to be wrong.

R. That is an interesting way to look at it...disturbing but interesting.

Lights in the wake said...

That seminar is silly. You're a manager. You have no obligation to listen to or respect the opinions of your subordinates.

And that picture is very frightening.

Tim ID said...

Lights,
Nor do I.

And what is it about ice cream cones that triggers such a visceral response from so many people?

Say hi to the squirrel for me. I hear he/she is nuts about you. But just for the record, these interspecies relationships rarely work out. Just look at the problems they had in Enumclaw.

Angel Without Wings said...

Some very funny comments here. I love the one you made to Steve about you making the laws in Dizgraceland and apparently Shandi enforces them thus making her the Sheriff.

You're right about the ice cream cones. It does seem to bring out the sarcastic comic in everyone....LMAO.

Anyway, the funny comments distracted me from the terror that picture evoked in me. BTW a couple of valium did the trick and I slept like a baby.

Hayden said...

Sure it's vanilla. Pink vanilla with an attitude. Ok, maybe nuts but I'm not sure abt pistachio.

Tim ID said...

Angel w/o wings, I'm starting to get a complex about my face on an ice cream cone frightening people. :(

Hayden,
Pink vanilla? Nuts? That's crazy talk again.

Blazngfyre said...

Freedom?
sheriff?
Vanilla?

ACK!
"It's" been resurrected!

Kat said...

There's a line in Pulp Fiction: Do you listen or wait to talk? Right after I saw that movie I started paying attention to what I do and was shocked to find that I primarily waited to talk. You'd be amazed at what you learn by actually listening.

Tim ID said...

Blaznfyre, Ironic as that would be, I would be the last one to ressurect such a place. I am just a simple country boy looking for someplace to take off his shoes and put his feet up without someone telling him his feet stink. Now that is freedom. :)

Kat,
Love it. I had forgotten that line. It is amazing that you can answer so many questions by listening before asking them.

Kindness said...

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Tim ID said...

Kindness,
Good point.