Thursday, February 16, 2006

Dance, monkey, dance...


"Blogging is like prostitution. First you do if for love, and then for a few close friends and then for comments."
--Moliere (sort of)

This quote fits the dilemma many bloggers face these days. Do we blog because we enjoy it, or are we hooked on the comments.

I tell myself I write just for me. If that was truly the case, the best thing to do would be to just turn off the comment function and just blog along without worrying about it. But this interactive writing we've plunged ourselves into can be very seductive.

Most of the time we don't think about the person behind the words we read. You'll read the newspaper or a magazine and, unless it is a columnist with a byline and photo, the writer is no more relevant than the paper the things are printed on. And forget about the copywriters paid to write cereal boxes and instructions for electric razors.

So just imagine what it is like to finally write something where people suddenly acknowledge that there is a person behind the curtain. As a professional copywriter that is both exhilerating and terrifying. It's like standing naked on the Interstate (not that it has ever been proved that I have done that).

Everybody wants to be acknowledged. There is nothing wrong with that. But blogging opens the door for more than acknowledgement. Allowing comments on your blog from total strangers can be the electronic equivalent of wearing a "kick me" sign on your back. I personally have been fortunate not to have attracted trolls -- the online version of a heckler. I suppose it is a matter of time, however, when one will wander in here and think everything I am writing is directed at them. I'll deal with it when it happens.

The real downside of comments is not getting them. There have been times when I've posted what I personally have thought was Pulizer Prize winning material and sat back to bask in the compliments. And humiliations of all humilations, no one says a word about it. It is a humbling experience. But it has also taught me not to take silence or positive feedback too seriously.

What I like about blogging is the freedom to experiment. In the real writing world, you don't get that opportunity unless you are a well established author with financial freedom to back up your whims. Stephen King is a perfect example (and he/she reads my blog to get new material). He writes whatever he wants now.

Blogging allows unsuccessful writers such as myself the luxury of playing around with words AND graphics. I am also a frustrated artist. But if you visit here every now and then you know that by now.

The biggest challenge for me is blogging despite comments or lack of them. Anyone who has ever undertaken a creative endeavor understands that there is a certain amount of discipline required to force yourself to produce material on a regular basis whether you feel like it or not.

Those times when I've produced something I really like and no one else seems to respond are discouraging. I have been tempted to throw tantrums and just not write. "I'll show them," I whine to myself. "I won't blog anymore until they appreciate me." Then I gently say to myself, "Tim, you are full of shit. " I like to write. I like to post photos I create. If I didn't blog, I would only be depriving myself of something I enjoy.

So comments or not, I'll write and I'll post photos. Because this monkey dances whether he gets a banana or not.

5 comments:

The Michael said...

For the most part, newpaper, television, and magazine articles are static, one way creatures that do not foster reply or discussion, while our blogs are perfect for it. You can get high and mighty and declare something, perhaps as fact, and have someone come back at you and trample all over your declaration, which is as it should be. These comments also help expand the story that you originated, and make it all the more informative or entertaining. As for comments, I'm sure most of us thrive on them, but I have encountered those who can't handle the slightest hint of an unfavorable take on what they wrote.....it's all high praise and symphathy or don't say anything at all. I've left them to their narrow little world. If I were to judge the success of my blog strictly on the number and/or quality of comments I got, I would have to hang it up, which I am not about to do. If I in essense become nothing but a pathetic voice in the wilderness, so be it, for I write to let the steam escape, and I can't expect everybody else to appreciate what I'm trying to say or the way I say it.
With my blog, you get every pennies worth.

Tim ID said...

the michael, my talented friend. Though I've heard (or read) you deny it, you are indeed a fine writer. I do count on you to bring a realistic perspective to things. We indeed can't expect everyone to appreciate what we are saying. The important thing is that we choose to say it. Indeed a bargain at the price we charge. Thank you.

shandi said...

I tried turning off the comment section of my blog in order to take the craving away. I discovered that some people actually LIKE to comment. I was denying them the pleasure of adding their perspectives.

On the rare ocassion, I could tell when someone had not even read my post but was merely alerting me to go read their blog. Comments like "great post, you go girl" when I have exposed my heart and soul are a real indication.

Don't you dare turn off your comment section.

Tim ID said...

Awww...I'd never turn off the comment section. Often the comments are the most entertaining part of my blog. Plus it would seem a little too much like sitting in a dark room talking to myself. And I do enough of that. :)

cherish said...

That is so true Tim!! When I lose a person who use to comment I wonder why, it hurts my feelings. Why did he stop commenting. I thought we were friends,I take it so personally. Then I find myself being a brat and saying well I will not comment on his blog. LAUGHING Like he really cares obviously he does not like me because he stopped visiting my blog. How silly is this thought process??? I also find I censor myself a bit now. I had a D/s story written with pics and decided against posting because it was XXX very graphic. I use to post those stories in the beginning without giving it a second thought but now it is different as I feel I know my readers better. I do have a different blog that I only write D/s stuff and I do not allow comments on it. It is very freeing to write and forget it! Well not sure if it makes a difference but I LOVE your blog and I am so thrilled I found it. I love the way your write and the pictures are beyond fantastic!!!

Thank you!!!