Friday, January 06, 2006

Okay, a man walks into a blog...



No, I'm not going to run another series of "a man walks into a bar" jokes (though I thought they were kind of funny myself). But I do think that blogging should be essentially fun. And I've been sensing lately that some of my fellow bloggers are stressing out about maintaining a blog, writing in a blog or responding to blog comments.

I've said this before and I'll say it again: What you write in your blog should be to please yourself, not others. That's what it is all about. I come to my blog to escape critics, not please them. So what if someone disagrees with you? Healthy debate is good for the soul. And if someone really pisses you off, just delete their comment. Passive agressive, yes, but it's your blog.

Oh, sometimes I catch myself wondering how people will react to some of my opinions. And of course it's nice if someone agrees with you or enjoys something you've said or created. But for every person that likes what you like, you can bet there will be another one who things you are whacked out of your gourd.

I think we worry too much about comments. I read lots of other blogs. And I may like them, but I don't always have something to say. I think it's okay if you want to read someone's blog without commenting on what they said. Do you write a letter about every magazine article you read?

This is not to say I don't like comments. It is nice to know there are people out there actually reading your stuff. And for the longest time, when day after day I would look at my blog entries and see the "O" comments sign I felt like I was a loon sitting on a bus talking to himself.

That's okay, too. Sitting on a bus talking to yourself is a good way to guarantee you will get your own seat.

But I digress.

Here's what I am proposing. Everyone with a blog who reads this should experiment with writing in their blog every day. It doesn't have to be profound or entertaining. It could be something as simple as, "I'm not dead yet." At the very least it will tell all of your friends that you are still breathing. And if you want to respond to comments but are at a loss for words, simply write, "I see dead people."

It's just a thought.

11 comments:

darlingina said...

...checking in and reading Tims daily post with a giggle. Hopes i never see dead people. Have a great weekend Tim. ;o)
Hugs,
~gina~

The Michael said...

But....ah....Tim......I DO see dead people. At least at work.

littleone said...

"I see dead people"??? LOL ohhhhh god one is not supposed to laugh with a mouthful of coffee...

You are right Tim-elvis there are an awful lot of people struggling in blogville these days... i tend to take the attitude (nasty as it is) if it is their blog to write what they want.. isn't it their blog to not write in??? though i do admit there are some bloggers i have become emotionally attached to (which really is weird and makes me think i should running to the nearest shrink) and i know i would miss them /do miss them if they suddenly stop.... hell don't they know us blogger junkies need to be weaned??

oh well.. what i really wanted to write as a comment was a simple one line "I SEE DEAD PEOPLE" but as usual the words just rambled forth.....

morningstar

Tim ID said...

Gina, You have a great weekend, too...seeing dead people or not :)

the michael, Touche, my friend. Then let's hope you don't start seeing Republicans.

Morningstar,
I grow fond of your ramblings. Thanks.

cherish said...

It is so very true I have spoke to several people who are thinking of leaving blog world or have already left. My feelings would be hurt over someone I thought was a friend. He would comment on everybody's blog but mine. Or write a book on others and two words on mine. I had to realize that I am writing in my blog for me and stop worrying about the comments. Please do not get me wrong I LOVE COMMENTS!!!! I know some of my friends have counters on their blogs and they see who is linking them. It is a great competition to have more visitors or more comments, but for me it is my blog if you wish to read it so be it, if you do not wish to read it or comment then okay and if you hate it hit the little X.

I think some people are having the after the holiday blues and they are looking for reasons they are feeling sad.

Great post thank you!

Tim ID said...

Thanks Cherish. When you asked in your blog why people started one, I think most really did as a way to express themselves and for themselves. It can get twisted along the way into writing what you think people want to hear. Keep writing for yourself.

cherish said...

That is such a good point!! It is kind of funny isnt it everyone begins a blog for themselves then they begin to write for comments or for their counters to move, I guess that is why they are becoming so frustrated!
Thank you!

Mickey said...

I talk to dead people.

Tim ID said...

Don't we all, Mickey, don't we all...

shandi said...

Thanks Tim :) We're dropping like flies. (Maybe it's all the dead people)

Tim ID said...

Shandi! You're alive! I was beginning to think you and Lights had ran away together. I half expected a joint blog to come out called, I have two Lights in my Bellybutton. :)